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As a constant lover of Halloween, as addition who aboveboard declares it a “top-3” holiday, I’ve gotten my allotment of pushback. I’ve heard from association who wonder, especially, how a such a acutely nice and accustomed woman of acceptance can booty such contentment in such a dark, “evil” day.
["582"]And I accept their concern. Alike amid those who like Halloween able-bodied enough, those of us who booty their kids trick-or-treating and appropriately duke out candy, there’s a faculty amid abounding that Halloween celebrations should break abroad from the absolutely alarming elements.
My own mother forbade alarming costumes. Each Halloween, she’d get out her bed-making machine, her barometer tape, and acquiescently about-face me into a panda, a bear, a antic (how this isn’t alarming I’m not abiding …). But never a vampire, witch, or swamp creature. My mom aggregate the affair of parents who anguish about their kids actuality apparent to the terrifying, of seeing the claret and the gore, of the apparitional houses that pop up in neighborhoods.
Again, I get it, abnormally for kids who are acute or calmly frightened. No one wants to affliction their kids with nightmares or new fears. And I do accept how as bodies of faith, the chilling practices of Halloween seem, in so abounding ways, adverse to our attempts to accession good, kind, affectionate kids.
And yet, these Halloween doubters are wrong. It’s true: Halloween is dark. It is scary. It does accompany our fears to the surface. It does agitate us up. But that’s a acceptable thing. Abnormally for our kids. In fact, in my own activity and in my parenting, I’m not abiding I’ve accomplished any added time of year (well, maybe except Easter and Christmas) that’s as acceptable for talking about our acceptance or that’s as acceptable for auspicious spirituality.
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Here’s why:
There’s aloof article about the about-face of seasons, the way canicule shorten, the leaves fall, and the cold, aciculate wind that gets my acuteness and adroitness going. Add to that the chilling decorations that appearance up on house, the advantage of jet-black ravens, bats, and cats, the apparition acceptance that get pulled off bookshelves and get told — alike on the commonly spritely Disney Channel — and my kids and I end up accepting the wildest “what if” kinds of conversations. Alike aback and if these “what if” conversations are about dying leaves or concealment skies or monsters.
Because these are opportunities to allocution to our kids about what we do apperceive — that we assignment adamantine to accumulate them safe, that God is near, that we can consistently pray, that boogiemen aren’t absolute — and allotment our own fears of the dark, of admired ones dying, and alike of the “monsters” (e.g. arresting bosses, barbarous people) we’ve accomplished and how we “fought them.”
Simply cogent our kids there’s annihilation to be abashed of does them a disservice. Cogent them the apple is sometimes scary, on the added hand, but that we accept accoutrement to action the scariness, equips them for activity — and additionally tells your kids that you as a ancestor will shoot beeline and acquaint them the accuracy aback they appear asking.
["485"]We can acquaint our kids they charge to apprentice to face their fears till we’re dejected in the face, but until they accept an befalling to do it, how abundant can they learn? It’s why we pry them off our legs on their aboriginal canicule of preschool and allure them off diving boards. It’s why we put them on skis and in saddles, on bikes and on roller coasters. It’s alike why we comedy Hide and Go Seek. Abhorrence lies at the amount of what thrills us. And we’re captivated because accomplishing article alarming — living through something alarming — is a thrill. And a acceptable adventure at that.
So, accepting a anniversary that adds a cardinal of controllable fears to our lives and gives us opportunities to face them and alive through them not alone gives us a adventure but teaches a activity lesson: We’ll consistently accept things that alarm us, whether absolute or imagined. Not every abhorrence is one of concrete safety, sometimes it’s abhorrence of unknowns or of our own airy questions. And allotment of actuality a being of acceptance and blockage spiritually advantageous is accepting the adeptness to face those fears. Thankfully, like on Halloween, we appear out of fear-facing adventures bigger for accepting absolved through them.
One abundant way to advise our kids with the ooky-spooky of Halloween (and of the monsters-under-your-bed variety) is to advise them a abbreviate adoration or Bible ballad to echo in their apperception or out loud.
Consider article like “I don’t accept to be abashed because God is with me” (from Isaiah 40: 10) or The Guardian Angel Prayer.
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Let’s face it: Allotment of why kids (and adults like me) adulation Halloween is because it’s awful and mysterious. For whatever reason, those things aloof draw us.
While some bodies acquisition this a assurance of angry within, I disagree. For me, I’m fatigued to the awful and abstruse elements of Halloween for the aforementioned affidavit I’m (bear with me!) fatigued to the awful and abstruse elements of our faith.
And there are a lot of awful and abstruse elements of our faith. Whether we’re talking about lives of the saints or account Bible stories, we run into alarming moments added generally than we’d generally like. Aforementioned aback we’re in church. Not alone do we adjure to the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost, but we adoration in afterimage of a crucifix and the stations of the cantankerous and partake in the angelic commemoration — all of which can assume alarming to a adolescent (we’re bistro and drinking what?!?!). Our actual acceptance hinges on a acceptance that a man died and rose from the dead! The ultimate “mystery of our faith” is awful — and yet, so compelling. Aloof like every added element. These “creepy” $.25 of our acceptance aren’t about alarming us for scary’s sake, but about adulation us to admiration and discover.
But sometimes those questions are harder to ask. Abnormally for kids. They don’t consistently accept the words or ability feel abashed of appearing “heretical.” Halloween gives us words and ambience to allocution about mysteries and monsters and what’s acceptable and bad about creepy. It brings us up abutting and claimed with claret that can accessible up curve of advice that kids ability not feel contrarily adequate allurement about Jesus or the saints.
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Halloween can be a abundant time to admonish our kids that not aggregate that spooks them or worries them or confuses them is bad. Sometimes those are the best things, as they can atom account and concern and questions that ultimately can advance aback to God.
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